Whenever bad things happen in our life, we tend to feel bad. Sometimes we may blame people as well for causing the â€œbad thingsâ€ to happen. Most of the time, we blame other party for not making our life better or make things happen the way we want it to be.
We blame the government for not taking appropriate actions, we blame our boss for not making them rich, we blame our spouse for not being supportive, we blame our friends for not helping us when we are in need and the list goes on. In another words, we tend to focus on the outer things.
The outer things are the result from the inner part of us, which are our mind and thought. In order to solve a problem, we must look at the inside. We must look at the root, or the cause of the problem. We can not change the result by focusing on the result. We can only change the result by changing the cause of the problem.
Let"s take a flowering plant as a metaphor. The flowers, fruits and the leaves are the outer parts of a plant. They"re on the outside while the root is the inner part of the plant as it is buried deep inside the ground. The inner part is the cause and the outer parts are the effect.
If we come across to a plant which has beautiful flowers, healthy leaves and sweet fruits (outside), we can be sure that the root (inside) is absorbing enough nutrients for the plant.
However, if we see an unhealthy plant where the color of the flowers is dull, the leaves yellowish and dry, the fruits are small and sour, and then we know that something is wrong with the root (inside). Perhaps the root is not able to find or absorb sufficient nutrients from the ground.
In order the change the outer things, which are to have more beautiful flowers, fresher leaves and sweeter fruits; we can not blame the flowers. We can not blame the leaves either and we can not blame the fruits. By blaming on the outer things, we achieve nothing. Furthermore, it makes ourselves feel bad.
The smarter way to change the result is by working from the inside. Find out what the plant needs and what is its optimum condition? Put more fertilizer and put the plant in the proper weather. By working correctly from the inside, the outside will take care of itself.
So, instead of blaming the government, support its opponent in the election. Instead of blaming your boss for the low paying job, build your own business. Instead of blaming your spouse for not being supportive, try to be independent. Instead of blaming your friends for not being caring, improve your relationship with them or find another group of friends.
If you are really serious about changing your life from the inside which will then positively and hugely affect the outside. This is the opportunity that you don"t want to miss.
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